Essential Steps to a Healthy Relationship ♡♡

♡ Healthy Relationships are built on trust, communication & love along with some other very vital elements-the kind that makes you wonder why you were ever alone in the first place, the kind that feels like it will never end and you always feel safe, sure & never have any bad gut-wrenching feelings that just gives you a feeling that something is off or just doesn’t feel right. Healthy Relationships & healthy love is purely built the kind of love that you feel safe, secure and know deep down they could never harm you or leave you feeling alone under any circumstance! True love..(the healthy kind) Is just the two of you together as a team,going against all odds, making it through the bad, the good ,the great & the even the worst but doing it as a team always! ♡

A relationship that is built on love, makes you feel alive, involves BOTH partners feeling so happy. It is with your best friend, someone who would do anything to make you smile and puts you before them.

If you want a relationship that lasts forever…then it must be first started on a solid foundation and then built upon key elements like communication, trust, and many more very important aspects. True love is what everyone is looking for when they think of the words love & couples.

As most all of us want the relationships with our loved ones to be healthy and unique to our personalities..

I have included some tips, information & ways to having a healthy, loving, unique, strong & happy relationship of your own that will last always & forever. ♡

I have studied human behavior in my psychology courses in college and have included some mind-blowing tips that will truley help improve either your current relationship to be a stronger, healthier & more bonded one to help you with the relationship that you have been searching for all along. I will also share my personal story of the real love I found, the love I thought I had and a very toxic love.

A toxic relationship (of my own)

My first real relationship was very toxic (as I have now know) was very much NOT a healthy one & from that I have learned so much.

Boy meets girl. Girl falls in….Love?

First I’m going to start off by telling you a very personal situation of my own in a story of my own past relationship… and explain the truths that all relationships are not always healthy.

My first real relationship was very toxic ( as I now know ) was very much NOT a healthy one, which is what I really learned from.

I married my high-school sweetheart, the boy that I had been with since high school we married very young I was 18 and he was 19. He was my best friend, and protected me around everyone which was amazing at that age to have someone who loved me that much & took such good care of me. We had three beautiful children together and always had our ups and downs as any relationship does, but over time drugs and partying entered our lives, drugs came in too. I chose to be a Mother at age 21 (when we had our first son) He chose partying…

He always was a very hard worker and took care of me, loved me & would apologize often for the more frequent fights and awful things that happened during these fights. I felt I still could not just walk away and his threats of “if I left”…would scare me to the point I just would continue to forgive him …which just allowed it to become a repeadative thing…but a few more years passed, it seemed to be a little better, we bought our first home, had our 2nd son. Things progressed to worse and really started to see the controlling side of him .. I felt sad all the time, always feeling bad feelings in my gut which I believe was a fear I’d walk through the door and he would harm me again (as it had gotten slightly physical but only a few times during fights) I was afraid he would harm one of our children so I just left but it was only for a short time until..

He would call crying frantically, saying he couldn’t live without me & our little boys so I would feel bad as he never did ever do anything to hurt our babies and I knew he couldn’t do that..so I ended up going right back. My sister & my mom did not want him or his rage with me. (as he had on several occasions screamed at my mom, made her leave our home & calling her names )

So then our daughter came into our lives, a few more arguments but this time worse involving some instances of severe physical abuse that had happened after my daughter was born, only this time something clicked in me, I just KNEW something terrible would happen if didn’t get out soon, I remember thinking to myself….”but how do I just leave?” “He is the father of my kids, the only person I’ve known for 17 years!” I became an adult with this man…He was my best freind. I loved him like no other” so I stayed yet again alittle longer…

When is enough…enough?

Two more years passed, he got controlling wanting me to call when I would arrive at the grocery store, asking how long it would take and if I was longer than that time ,he would call repeatedly when I got home it would turn into fights, him accusing me of being somewhere else. I really could not take the arguments anymore knowing that I would have to show him receipts when getting groceries to prove where I was & why it took longer than the time requested. I was in line one afternoon getting groceries, when it took longer than expected, as there were only a few cashiers at the check out that day. I dealt with this among …many other things for 17 years as the fights grew worse, which eventually turned into scarey kinds of threats and repeated physical abuse, especially when I went back to college to finish my degree. I knew I still loved him very much…and hadn’t told anyone about the abuse physically or emotionally. It wasn’t until my daughter who is age 6 now and the neighbors calling the police his abuse towards me that I knew, as scared as I was inside that this was not loved and I had to leave. So I rented a storage unit and day by day slowly put things inside it hoping he would not know, until the day I could get out safely.

I finally got out and he was enraged, he was doing drugs a lot more now ,was getting extremely violent now, blocking my car in so I couldn’t leave, accuse me of cheating while I was at my college classes, saying if I left he would harm himself , drinking on a regular basis and even put a knife to me & choked me until I would promise not to leave along with many more awful things. I knew I had to be strong for my children and keep moving forward so finally I did…

Girl Gone…Boy gone crazy

After 3 years have finally allowed some one else into my children and my lives and I have never been happier! I am so glad I did! I never thought of wanting to meet someone else or that love even existed after I devoted 17+ years to one man so cold , so controlling & heartless but I have never knew what feeling safe meant until I met my amazingly loving, kind hearted man. God was watching over me & my children all that time and for that I am so very grateful..

I have been with him for 2 years now and he has never once treated me badly or even raise his voice to me. He protects us and loves my children like his own. I know God was looking out for me because I had no clue what real love was until I met him. So i guess now I am lucky in love….:)

♡ Love ♡ the relationship your in♡

♡And so…

they built a life together. A new life…a fresh beginning with no more fear or tears..Just pure love♡ A love like no other♡♡

♡Here are key essentials to a having & keeping a healthy relationship ♡

Laugh with them more often. Do not argue or pick arguments do not take your day out and them, as they may have had a long day too.

Try to be compassionate to their feelings and be more understanding.

Leave little sweet messages or love notes just because, not just texts (like lipstick on the mirror in the morning ) It really shows you care.

Be patient with them, they don’t all do the things exactly the same so we need to have patience with those we love.

Me & you should equal a distance or a goal you are both trying to reach together or have succeeded, a lifelong Adventure you cannot wait to start or go on, future of Love, friendship, trust, laughter, smiles, tears of joy, making up, and Alive feeling always knowing you both are lucky to have such an amazing love that can never fade Or grow weak through Time.♡

Be wild & free, adventurous together! Go on trips when you can, Laugh all the time, Live..Let love in & leave the negative out! Do fun things as a couple at least once a week if possible.

Take morning showers together. ♡

♡ No matter what age you are..act like kids when your together♡ All of us have that inner child inside of us & once it is brought out of both of you, new memories, new bonds will form and you will make more memories of the fun you two share. This will help promote a healthier & happier relationship that will never fade ♡

Grow together. Grow as one, Don’t allow yourself “just grow “..because as you both grow up with time, you should grow together because if not, you could grow apart.

Hug each other tightly each and every day. Communicate your feelings with them and always ask them how they feel about a specific topic you’re speaking of.

Embrace the reasons you are together & use those to keep the relationship happy & uniquely yours. Remember what you fell in love with when you first met and Relive or recreate it. Go to the same place you two met or go on the same date you went on to bring back that sparked memory.

Do not interrupt each other while talking. It’s very uncaring and shows lack of appreciation for the other. What they are saying that may not be exciting to you, but is probably very important to them, so listening to your partner is extremely important.

Learn to forgive and learn to forget, arguments especially, Do not hold on to past fights or bring up reoccurring past fudes each time you have a new argument.

Communicate! Communication is the most important of all. Do not hold anything in because when you feel sad, they feel sad. When you are upset…. they are upset. tell them exactly how you feel with everything because it will help prepare you both when real trouble comes into your lives. You will not have to hold it back you will feel like you can tell your partner and will able to deal with it together as a team, which is much healthier!

Set down the cell phone, turn off the TV at least an hour each day and spend quality time together.

♡ My guy reads to me out of a book with that we picked out an old vintage bookstore, he reads a little to me each night and I help him with the bigger words he doesnt recognize LOL ♡ We laugh & have fun cuddling up and I love listening to his voice before going to bed♡

♡ Here are over 200 Cute Date Ideas for Date night ♡

Go to a Drive -Inn Movie
Go wine tasting
Explore a new town or city
Have coffee at favorite nearby cafe
Kareokee
Take a walk on the beach
Do Couple Excercises
Learn Line Dancing as a couple
Bake together
Play tag
Babysit togethe4r
Play twister-Make your own fun rules:)
Go to a play in your town
Go visit Antique shops
Go for a long bike ride
Go horseback riding
Pick wildflowers in the country
Sleep under the stars
Get groceries together
Take bubble bath together (With LOYS of bubbles)
Take a country ride
Go to library and look at old history newspaper articles from your town
Share past childhood memories
Go to a museum and look at Art
Go to a comedy club
Have a day in bed & stay under the sheets cuddling all day
Go to a sub shop
Go to an ice cream parlor
Go for a morning run together
Ride on a ferry
Take a train to unknown destination
Go try on silly clothes together
Role-play
Go look at houses in neighborhood that you both love
Dance at home together to songs you both love from the time you met
Go white water rafting
Go camping just the two of you
Give each other massages
Have a couples spa day
Go to a fair
Go to a farmers market
Go to a festival
Go berry picking
Take a walk in the woods
Go hiking
Go see waterfalls
Test drive your favorite dream car together
Make lists of goals and share them all
Make a blanket indoor tent
Make a game of cards against humanity
Volunteer together at a shelter
Play a trivia game
Movie marathon
Go scuba diving
Go sky diving
Stay at a Bed & Breakfast
Go ice skating together
Try a boxing class together
Bowling
Go fishing
Get some sun together
Try a new restaurant
Do a photo shoot & Take turns being photographers
Go to a bookstore
Late night swim
Have a fire on the beach (If It’s OK in your town to do this )
ping pong challenge
Play dice game together
Go to garage sales
Try a pottery class
Play video game ( black opz-zombies -as you can kick butt on the same team)
Watch the sun rise together
Watch the sun set
Tour a new place
Act like tourists who are lost in close town
Cook something new together
Catch lightning bugs (then let them go together)
Lay under the stars
Play couples truth or dare
Go get a psychic palm reading
Take some love quizzes
Make lists of loves & hates
Talk with nothing in house on
No cell phone-no television day
Take a plates class together
Take yoga together
Go rollers Katina at roller rink
Go visit a botanical garden
Go to local arcade
Shop for vintage records at record store
Make milkshakes together
Teach each other something new
Go to at casino
Tell each other at secret
Go exploring somewhere new
Go try something new
Go to trampoline park
Paint at room together
Make own personalized pizzas
Snuggle by fire
Make smores
Share interests
Get lost (purposely)
Make a DIY project together
Share bucket list
Re-Live time when you two met.
Wash car together with lots of bubbles & suds 🙂
Nerf War
Scavenger hunt
Romantic dinner in
Have a picnic inside
Go snowboarding
Play would you rather
Look up funny memes
Paintball park
Re-decorate together
Make bed in bed of truck & sleep under the stars
Tell scary stories by a fire
Go sight seeing
Build something together out of Leggos
Visit a farm
Do something you both never did before but always wanted to
Go race on a race track
Share your fears
Share your dreams
Build a snowman together
Go jet skiing
Go surfing
Snorkeling
Diving
Visit the ocean together
Visit a zoo
Go pick apples at an apple orchard
Go swimming
Go tubing
Go parisailing
Plant flowers together
Make a garden
Learn a new language
Spring clean together
Have a Netflix n chill day
Go to a baseball game
Make smoothies
Play monopoly
Paint together
Color
Go feed ducks at local pond
Go window shopping
Go hunting
Go golfing
Go mountian climbing
Go to a historic town
Go surfing
Walk your dog
Watch a romantic movie
Play rock, paper scissors
Learn yoga
Learn Latin
Go visit a light house
Go see abandoned buildings
Go see landmarks
Go visit a nursing home & help out there
Learn kickboxing
Go on a hayride
Rent a Vespa
Go rollerblading
Visit the grand Canyon
Take love quizzes
Go feed the he birds
Go to a pizza rialto
Make Italian meal together
Picnic in the park
Go donate blood
Get couple tattoo
Carve pumpkins
Build sand castles
Make fancy breakfast and eat outside on a patio or deck
Go snowboarding
Cuddle
Dance in the rain
Pick wild raspberries
Go to a vineyard
Go to a brewery
Visit an old cemetery
Play hide n seek
Visit an alpaca farm
Tour a city with a guide
Rent a limo
Go to a concert
Try Sumo wrestling suites
Challenge each other to a game
Learn to skateboard
Roll down a big hill
Barrel race
Sack race
Visit a rodeo
Bomb roast marshallows
Go to a sushi bar
Try exotic seafood you have never had before
Go to a foam party
Play old school Nintendo
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Have an ♡ “I’M ALL IN “♡ Love!

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